Moving On - How To Get Over The Last Relationship

by: Susan Lancaster

Whether you finished it or they did, the best thing you can do is
accept that whatever you had is now over. The memories will fade with
time and you need to focus on healing yourself, so firstly think about
all the great times you had together. Then really think about how you
felt, were you that happy? Did you have to compromise anything? Was it
supposed to be about you but actually ended up being all about them?

In many relationships you think you are truly happy but then they end
and then analysing and looking over the events that happened and
enjoyed in a different light, will help you see what was really
happening because if the relationship is over, it is because it wasn't
perfect - so stop making it perfect in your own mind.

Now focus on some of the bad times, did they cheat? Did you cheat? If
so why? What did you or they see in someone else that you didn't have?
The answer will probably make you feel like it is your fault but no,
if for whatever reason you aren't exactly what that person needs to
maintain a successful relationship, that is no one's fault. You might
just simply be wrong for each other. You can still be madly in love
but wrong for each other, especially when you think about having a
successful relationship means two people living one life. How much did
you compromise and how much did they?

The important thing is to see your old relationship for how it
actually was, were the best times that good? Were the bad times trying
to tell you something! Now think about what you have learned about
yourself. What are you prepared to do to make a relationship work
going forward and would you really compromise yourself that much
again?

Then focus on you. You have good qualities and have things about you
that make you who you are, what are they? Write them down. Was there
anything you old partner used to tease you about? Your hair, face,
teeth or body and then think about what you know could be improved.
Would improving some of your not so great bits make you feel better?
Joining a gym or a new dating agency could help you establish yourself
in a new light. You are a person of value and worth and you deserve to
be respected and end up happy in a loving relationship and although
that last one failed, there could be someone who is your true love
just around the corner.

About The Author

Susan is a dating counsellor who helps couples and singles in the
singles world. Susan works for Lovestruck.com who let you search and
meet singles who live in your city. If you live in the UK then why not
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